No, you can’t…Yes, you can! Does this phrase sound familiar? The dichotomy that this phrase offers is accurate and relevant for us all. Let me introduce you to the concept of ‘self-sabotage’. It is an ongoing phenomenon that has its source in the many and varied challenges we have experienced, either personally or professionally. The power and influence of these experiences live in our subconscious. So, when opportunities arise, our self-talk (if not positively geared) leads us into fear, fostering thoughts and excuse creation.
How do we change our self-talk?
Consider the following:
- Develop a neutralised approach and responses that consist of philosophical approaches. For example, if someone fails to show up for a meeting. Instead of taking it personally, think about it as something that may have prevented them from meeting with you or that the meeting was not meant to happen.
- Carry confidence boosters with you. Often, I invite my clients to carry on their persona positive messages given to them about who they are, what they have achieved, or acknowledgments about work done well.
- Connect with a mentor who will challenge your negative self-talk.
- Change excuse creation to positive statements. For example, instead of saying No, I can’t…say, Yes, I can.