Often, we hear comments like “You need to have the confidence to take on the role”; or “Be confident with your approach” or you might hear “You are lacking in confidence”.
For many people in the workplace and or privately for that matter, confidence is seen as a “vital passport” (Perry, 2009) to fulfilling personal and professional goals. Being confident means that you back yourself to do what needs to be done. A confident person is focused and has a specific pathway they choose to follow in the belief that all will work out. More importantly, being confident means that there is very little, or no energy given to worrying.
Confidence is one of the critical components of learning about how to communicate effectively. There are two components to confidence that support our capacity to communicate with others. The first is self-confidence and this is reflective of our own knowledge, skills, and understandings aligned with our capabilities. The second critical component of confidence is linked to external factors that may include the relationships we have with others (personal and or professional), as well as varied environmental and or economic situations. Regardless of the type of confidence we have what is evident is that confidence is critical to effective communication. Growing confidence involves building your mental power, developing thought neutralisers, and achieving set goals. Losing confidence includes negative influences that are linked with exclusion, disappointment, and criticism.
Let’s consider some tips and tricks for growing confidence.
- Avoid comparing yourself and what you do with others. As human beings, we are all different. Embrace who you are.
- Engage in appreciative thinking. Appreciative thinking means that you focus on all the positive aspects of yourself and the great contribution you make to the lives of others.
- Engage in positive self-talk. Change your language to emphasise the positive. For example, instead of saying “I can’t do this” maybe consider “I am going to give this a go and see how things turn out”. You may be surprised by what you learn.
- Allow people to get to know you. Sharing some things about yourself may assist in developing relationships.
- Remember people’s names.
- Be present in conversations – engage in actively listening to what is being said.
- Build your NO muscle. Sometimes, you need to be true to yourself. If you cannot do something, then say “NO”.
So, now that you have read this blog, consider how important confidence is to you in either your personal or professional relationships. What do you need to do more or less of?